Good Morning
Friends
It is the weekend
and I am looking forward to a fabulous one.
Let’s forget the fact that I have already been up for
several hours [thank you internal alarm clock]; and the fact
that the temperature has dropped roughly 40-degrees since yesterday. Today is going to be a great day! It is perfect for
relaxing, reading and writing
So, let’s dive
right in!
Yesterday – we
talked about EROS LOVE;
How it is romantic and passionate; intensely intimate and
sexual
Today – however, I
would like to start with PHILEO LOVE
Why? Because I believe there must be great PHILEO LOVE to
experience great EROS LOVE
There must be a mutual admiration, respect and love for
one another.
Recall how we noted that while EROS LOVE has
sexual elements;
It is not solely defined by sex
EROS LOVE and sex are two different elements.
And while
both can be present in a relationship, they are not equal and interchangeable.
You can have sex which could, in the worst scenario,
actually be a violent attack
- NOT EROS
LOVE
You can have sex which is erotic & enticing to one
and debasing & humiliating to the other
- NOT EROS
LOVE
You can have sex which falls outside of the originally
planned context
- NOT EROS
LOVE [and something we will discuss when we revisit boundaries]
- Scripture tells us how, ‘a man leaves his father
and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh … [how] Adam and his
wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.’ Genesis 2:24-25
- The LORD designed men and women brilliantly and
perfectly!
Understand that
for every perfect plan of God; the enemy has
designed a cheap counterfeit our lives and to keep us from experiencing God’s
best for our lives.
I believe this is how EROS LOVE has become synonymous with sex.
It is sexual and passionate but it is not merely or
necessarily sex.
True EROS LOVE has its roots in many types of love - which will be discussing in more detail [*As an aside – I think we might end up taking our LOVE discussion through the end of February]
IN ANY EVENT –
This is why I believe the best EROS LOVE
begins in the realm of PHILEO LOVE.
You will recall that phileo love is a mutual love,
appreciation and affection.
NOW, the majority
of your PHILEO relationships will not develop into EROS love [that would be
strange and a discussion for another day]. HOWEVER, the very
best EROS relationships must include a foundation of PHILEO LOVE. This is my belief.
When I think about my best friendships, they are based
upon:
- Mutual Respect
- Mutual Sharing & Growing
- Trust
- Vulnerability
- Generosity
- Thoughtfulness
- Selflessness
- Genuine Feelings of Good Will
- Honesty; the very truest form, the kind that
hurts sometimes but that echoes the sentiments in Proverbs 27:6 which reminds
us that even the ‘wounds’ of a friend can be trusted. There is a saying, ‘you
shall know the truth and it shall set you free.’ However, I have long been a
proponent of the idea that, ‘you shall know the truth and it shall make you mad
– long before it sets you free.’ Yet, the best PHILEO relationships embrace
this because the intention behind the honesty is never to harm – it is always
based on the desire for the other person to experience their best life possible
- Shared Principles; this is not the same as
shared ideas and perspectives. It is however, based upon similar core values.
My very best PHILEO relationships are those where we share the same core values
and are able to build one another up in faith and based upon godly principles.
This list could go
on –
And, what would EROS relationships look like if more had
their start and foundation in PHILEO LOVE? What would the divorce rate look like?
Think about your
past relationships – EROS relationships;
For the relationships which were not successful and that
ended, were there items from our PHILEO relationship list that were lacking?
For the EROS
relationship you have currently;
What items on our list play a role in the effectiveness
of the relationship?
What items on the list, if present in greater measure,
could make the relationship even better?
EROS LOVE –
IT IS
A LOT MORE THAN WHAT IT HAS BEEN MADE OUT TO BE
AND IT MATTERS WHERE YOU BEGIN
Praying You Have a Blessed Day!
Wishing You Much Love …
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